cuffing
refers to girls+guys looking
for the opposite sex to keep
them warm in the fall :o)
Édith Piaf
dans l'amour il faut des
larmes in
love there has to be tears il faut tant de larmes
pour avoir le droit d'aimer you
need SO MANY TEARS in order to have THE RIGHT TO LOVE
Sexual consenthas
2b
-
verbal
-
ongoing
-
enthusiastic
tip: 1st
date, 30
minutes @coffeeshop
"Everything
that lives,
lives not alone nor for
itself."
-
William Blake, English Romance poet
Group
Dates Young
peopleshould
enjoy their
freedom by going on group
dates with
people they know: no young
person is fully
emotionally
mature
2engage in sex.
Premature sexual
activity can
result in high levels of anxiety,
abuse+loss of self love.
Group
datesr
a safe way 2
develop a healthy self image+
confidence in one's ability 2
attract those of the other sex.
Did u no?
*Non-consentual* touch or act
of a sexual nature
is sexual
assault,
a punishable
criminal offence. tip:u want 2 touch, ask!
Did u no? 2many impersonal
sexual
relationships can lead 2
sexually transmitted dis-
eases, sterility, unwanted
pregnancy, an addiction 2
sex+a disbelief in marital
fidelity.
~~~
"What
is essential is invisible to the eye." -
Saint Exupery, author of The
Little Prince
~~~
Did
u no? 35% of
the people using personal ads r married.
.
Did
u no?
U might b dating a person
online
who is pretending
2b confident.
Did
u no? A
date is about 2people
who come togetheron
theirbestbehavior wan-
ting 2have fun+in the
process get 2 no a bit
about each other.
tip:a
date is
not
about answering
a
list
of questions
tip:a
1st date success is when both
want 2
go
on a 2nd date
Did
u no?
Let the girl you date
know
that you're grateful
by saying, I think we're
going 2have
a fun time hanging out
together. Thanks
4 coming.
tip:thinking
of dating him/her, say,
let's
do something together
sometime
tip:surprise
your date
with a
gift
like flowers,chocolates,concert (game
or theatre) tickets.
tip:on
a date a girl expects the guy 2 show
her respect,attention, affection tip:offer
2give her a hand,shoulder,
head,
or foot massage;
read
her
a
poem;
play a musical instrument
4 her;
tell her a few funny
jokes;
play
a game,
a sport
Did
u no?
Asking
him/her, May
I have
your phone #? is better than
saying I'd
like 2have your phone
#. because a
question is smoother.
.
6guy-tips
1. see
a girl you
like, smile+say,
Hi!
I'm Ken. And you are... ?
2. when
talking 2a
girl, look
her
in
the eyes (not her
chest)
3.on
a date,
don't
b
checking out
other
women: that's so rude
. 4. if
the girl u
r with, asks if u noticed
some other
girl,
say, No,
Im
sorry
you
thought I was looking at some-
one else.
5.
ask
her what things she thinks about
6. complement
the girl you're with
by
saying
something
like I
like
your dress.
It really looks great
on you.
Did
u no? A
poll conducted by Playgirl
magazineindicates
that women
like average men who
r a little hairy+chubby.
.
Did
u no? The
majority of women prefer a man in
a pair of
jeans, boxers underneath+
sporting a T-shirt with a
little cologne, NO stray
nose hair+trimmed eye
browse, NO back hair,
NO sandals, NO brief
bathing suits at the
beach according 2a
Cargo mag survey.
Did
u no?
2
keep the date moving talkwise
u
can ask about
his/her favorite
book or movie, what
s/he does 4fun,
what
places s/he
wants 2
go 2, what
places s/he has
been
2, what kind of events
s/he likes,
what concerts
s/he has been 2,
what funny things
that have
happened 2him/her, what s/he
finds funny, his/her hobbies.
.
Did
u no?
A
3-course dinner with a bottle of
wine+a white linen
tablecloth with
romantic lighting wins a girl's
heart
every time according 2a study by
a
team of London Imperial College
mathematicians who
developed
a mathematical courtship model.
Did
u no? When
a man+woman hug
each other
their heart benefits from the increased levels
of oxytocin,
a
bonding hormone
according 2
a study from the University
of North Carolina.
.
tip: when
your boy friend or girl
friend decides
2get
after u
4
some-thing, say, relax,
chill:
we'll
discuss it once
u rcalm.
.
Did
u no?
2
successfully communicate with
your girl friend or boyfriend, talk about
what isreallyup-
setting
u
in order 2get the problem out
in
the open so it can
b dealt with (WITHOUT
name calling+bringing
up of unrelated issues.)
tip: the
secret
2a successful relationship is
to TALK!
TALK! TALK!
"Do
as much talking
and listening
as you can before
you
entwine
your
emotional and financial futures. You
can't
choose
your
kids,
parents,
or relatives, but
you can choose
your partner, preferably
after a
courtship (to
use
an old-fashioned
word) that
allows
you to
enlarge and
deepen
the
conversation. A
relationship built
on silence, on
shedding, or
suppression of
differences doesn't
have a strong foundation." -
Harriet Lerner, psychologist/author
~~~
tip:flirting
is an eye
contact game leaving the person
won- dering if u r interested or
just being polite
tip: if the
person u r
trying 2 charm turns
you down, doN'T hit
on her/his
buddy seated next 2 him/her, move on
tip:stay
coolon
a 1st date (don'ttalk 2
much.)
.
"Don't
tell me. Suggest.
But
don't tell." -
Frank Sinatra
.
Did
u no? There r
questions
u don't ask
... 1. what r
u thinking?
2. why
did u breakup? 3. do
you
think s/he's hot?
4. where
r we going
with this relationship?
~~~
tip:girls
doN'T
like it when a guy puts
his tongue
in2 her ear - nibbling
is OK?
tip: the #1
turn-on4a
man is
a woman who wants
him
Did
u no?
Toxic
togetherness
occurs when
a couple
becomes overly
clingy.
It
kills the romance.
Leaving+coming
back together
keeps the relationship
fresh allowing it 2breathe. (Everyone
needs
his/her own space.)
"What
sex is to men, relationships
are to women." -
Kristine Kern, Tango Managing Editor
tip:let
her know
that it's
all about her, put your arms
around her+ squeeze her lovingly
saying
Hey,
Baby, youknow
, you
turn
me on.
.
Did
u no?
A Cornell
University research
paper says we
r attracted 2those
who are like us in terms of looks,
wealth, social status+outlook.
It
suggests that in a
marriage of
equals
there's less
likelihood
of a
higher status partner
try-
ing2trade
up 2a better partner.
tip:marriages
between similar matches r
more common+ have
a far greater chance
of success
than marriages between
opposites
.
Did
u no?
A
good date
is passionate about
things, a
good date
is interested
in what
his/her date thinks, in what
makes him/her tick+a
good date
generates sexual excitement.
tip:a
person with a pet is
considerednurturing+
as a
result, a potential
good
date
tip:a
person who has learned from previous relationships+ is not
bitter
is considered good
dating material
tip:a
person who has
had relationshipswith the opposite
sex 4quite a
while is
felt 2b trust- worthy
tip: in
a 2005 poll of 1000 adults 2/3
chose 2have
more$$$ over
having more sex
tip: it's notunusual4women 2preferchocolate
over
sex
tip: give
her chocolates
saying, These
chocolates are
for
you
so
you live long.
.
Did
u no?
The British
Medical Journal
reported that
eating chocolates
regularly in moderate amounts can
extend a person's life by a year.
Harvard School of
Public
Health researchers found that
people who
eat 1-3 candy bars
a month have
a 36% lower
risk
of death than those
who don't
eat chocolate.
tip:if
she likes u,
she'll enjoy hanging
outwith your
family
~~~
Did u no?
The single,
young, college-educated+
affluent r
moving in droves
to Naples
(Florida), Las
Vegas (Nevada),
Charlotte
(North Carolina)+Portland
(Oregon)
ac-
cording 2 a U.S. Census Bureau study.
~~~
"With
women, the
heart argues, not
the mind."
-
Matthew Arnold
~~~
Did
u no?
Women need 27
minutes
of foreplay
which can
involve
any combination of kissing, sucking, licking, squeezing+ rubbing.
.
Did
u no? When
it
comes 2foreplay, the
guy
needs 2ask
what the
girl likes. He can sug-
gest things ahead of time.
.
tip:foreplay should
b
negotiated
tip:no
one should feel forcednoruncom-
fortabledoing
any-
thing sexual
.
humour Q: Do
you know why
women
fake orgasm?
A:
Because men fakeforeplay.
tip:a
female orgasm is
a powerful painkiller be-
cause
of the endorphins
it releases
.
Did
u no? The fear of having sex
is
called genophobia.
.
Did
u no? 43%
of
women+31% of men
suffer from
some type of sexual
dysfunction.
~~~
Did
u no? Flirting
starts with a
playful
smile+eye
contact.
It is enhanced by
saying her/his
name, by giving a complement+
by making
him/her
laugh.
.
tip:start a
conversation by
talking about yourself
tip:touch
lightly her/his arm
or
hand or shoulder a
bit
tip:try
the
Eskimo kiss by
rubbing the side
of
your
against his/hersin small
circles
.
Did
u no?
The nose is
lined with tissue
very similar 2
erectile tissue
in sexual organs.
.
"Kiss
me. I
need
to
know something."
-
Kirsten Dunst, Spiderman
2
movie
.
Did
u no? Kissing
was already considered
a romantic gesture in
the Kama
Sutra
of 1500 B.C.+today, it's used
2enhance
a romantic relationship.
tip: in
Asia a boy doesn't kiss
a girl(Only
hus-
band+wife kiss.)
tip:what is required
2 kiss
r
moist, willing lips+clean
breath
.
Did
u no? Great kissing aids r lip
gloss,
a cold Popsicle+a lollypop.
Did
u no?
2kiss... 1st kiss, nibble
lightlyother
body
parts b4
going 2 the lips
like
the back
of the neck, throat, cheeks, forehead
2nd kiss, nibble, suck the lips
lightly 4a minute b4 playfully
twirling the tongue
3rd
use
your fingertips
2caress
his/her body
4th
end
your kissing
session
with
several seconds of
tender
kissing
.
Did
u no? Eating
6 oz. of yogurt
a
day
will fight off bad breath according
2a Japanese study from Tsurumi
University in Yokohama. It re-
duces hydrogen sulfide (the
cause of bad breath) in the
mouth by 80%.
tip:yogurt prevents
gas- trointestinal
problems
as
well
as dental decay
as
well
as reduce
plaque
+gingivitis
~~~
"I
have found men
who
didn't
know how to kiss.
I've
always found timeto
teach them."
-
Mae West .
~~~ tip: love
is ... 1. passion
2. intimacy
3.
commitment
.
Did
u no? The Greeks
were the ones
2invent
the term honeymoon.
tip:2
appear sexy b cond
fident, show
atttitude, feel
confortable with
your
body+b
funny
.
Did
u no?
In a
survey of 20-29 years
old,
94% said they
agreed with this
statement: When
u marry, u
want your spouse 2b
your soul
mate, 1st+foremost.
~~~
"To
think is easy. To
act is hard. But
the hardest thing in the world
is
to
act in accordance with your thinking." -
Johann von Goethe, German
Poet+Philosopher
~~~
"Too
long a sacrifice can
make a stone
of
the heart."
-
William Butler Yeats
tip:impress
him/her
with a Haiku,
an
ancient
Japanese poetic form http://tinywords.com
~~~
tip:yelling,
nagging,
name
callin,
actively
ignoring r
all forms
ofemotional
abuse
humour In
the 2001 movie, Chicago,
the
husband of rich Chicago socialite
caught in bed with two women
says to his wife:
Come on, Doll! Are
you going to believe what you see or
what I tell yah?
.
Did
u no?
Telltale
signs of cheating:
-
s/he
picks fights
- starts criticizing u
- goes 2work earlier
- buys u
unexpected gifts
- does u unexpected favors
- bcomes uncommunicative
- starts 2look+act
differently
- comes back from work later
- his/her sexual behavior changes
(The 1 b-ing cheated on
needs 2*rekindle*
the
loveby
acting super
nice, b
as loving as
possible+looking
really sexy.)
"The
art of love... is
largely the art
of
persistence."
-
Albert Ellis
.
"There
is hardly any activity, any enterprise,
which
is started with such
tremendous
hopes and
expectations, and yet, which
fails so
regularly as love."
-
Erich Fromm, The Art
of Loving
Love Love
does make the World
go round.
"It
starts
with a
love attraction
that leads to a commitment,
a
decision
2love in
sickness+health - forever!
But first, he
has to ask her.
Secondly, she
has to say YES!
It's her
yes
that
gives love a chance
2grow.
The magic of love
is that people
do commit+their
commitment does NOT
waver because
they r committed 2love
freely bound
by that decision 2love that
person more than any other 4 life.
And so begins
the story
of
love ...
The
2 become 1.
She
becomes a mom, he a dad.
Together,
as a famil,
they celebrate
their love.
That's the
story of love
that is passed
on from generation 2generation."
(ISBN
0-9689542-8-6)
